I have been planning weddings for the past 16 years all over the country including Birmingham Alabama, Los Angeles California and everywhere in between and have met so many incredible families during this time... a common thread amongst these sweet brides and their families is so much anxiety and feelings of stress for so many various reasons from the details turning out to look like the visions the brides have developed on their pinterest boards to worrying about family members getting along on this one special day. The advise I find myself giving away is that no matter how much people will not get along and how much detail comes to life or doesn't come to life due to weather issues or budget or time, you are STILL going to have your special day and all the ingredients that come together to make this day all yours will be all the memories you carry with you throughout your lifetime. The goal is of course, your wedding day but the journey getting there is just as important and can be just as enjoyable. Here are a few tips that may help you along the way:
1. Keep your sense of humor - You know your family members and you know by now how the dynamics have come together from holiday gatherings to birthday parties to family reunions. There is always a moment, a few months prior to the wedding day where the bride comes to me with horror in her eyes wanting to tell me some drama that may or may not occur on the wedding day and she is usually completely embarrassed about what she has to say and that she has to explain away her family's behavior. Brides, trust me, I have heard it ALL! Nothing shocks me anymore and you know what the great part is?? As many stories I have heard about and as many family dynamics my brides have told me about, this tells me that the more dysfunction involved, the more "normal" the family really is! So please don't worry! You will find more often than not that your family will completely behave themselves and understand that this day is all about you and your new husband and not at all about them and what kind of past drama they may be experiencing. Laugh with them and laugh at the drama because trust me, you may think this is not "normal" but it IS!
David Shirk - Unplugged Photography